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Birthday Lessons

What is the best part about turning a year older? How do you change? Well I’m another year older and here are some of the lessons I’ve learned.

1.Things never turn out exactly how you plan them. Well duh you might be saying, but for an “A” type personality like me I like to stick to my plans. Now this is not a lesson I learned recently but it is one my career and the struggle of it constantly reminds me of.

2. Being an introvert is not a bad thing. Growing up, and even in my career in the fashion industry being an introvert has been perceived as a hindrance by peers and myself.  When in reality introverts are usually creative people with great ideas. The lack of loudness that comes from introverts doesn’t mean we are weird or stuck up. We simply need time and space to express whatever is on our minds. There are plenty of loud voices in the world. Some of those loud voices are simply that, loud without sense or substance. Let other people be loud, being introverted will serve you in another form. With that said working in an extroverted industry does push you out your comfort zone. And because of that I am not as introverted as I once was.

3. I’m a hustler.  Now I always knew I’d be able to take the bad with the good in my industry but it sure has been a tester.  I have done many different jobs in the industry, all in the name of pushing my career further.  Blogging has also helped unveiled this quality, as it entails being one’s own boss, PR rep., marketer, editor and more. To accomplish the task one must be ready to work and network.  Never give up, be ready to put in time and hustle.

4.When you begin the journey of the hustle you don’t realize who’s watching you.  To my surprise this is something I dealt with during 2016.  I’m glad and appreciative that the people watching have enjoyed my content. Always put your best work out there.

5.There are certain societal issues that have become important to me. I’ve learned if you want something changed you must contribute. Write, email, call, text, tweet, just do something. If you complain without trying to change the outcome you aren’t contributing at all.

 

 

6. Saying no can hinder and help you. As women we tend to want to please and say yes to everything and everyone. You might feel guilt, but if you feel your work is worth more than what someone is offering go with your gut. Learn when to say no.

7.This one goes back to number 4. As people watch you they tend to begin to want things from you. I love giving advice whether it’s career or blogging wise, although you notice when someone solely wants something from you. They aren’t interested in nurturing a relationship or offering something in return.

8. Blogging as a business is a lot harder than it looks. Now there is blogging as a hobby and blogging as a business. When you blog as a business, you are responsible for everything. Bloggers are entrepreneurs, who make something out of nothing. There is so much you have to learn about running a small business. Because essentially when you run a blog as a business it is a small business. With that comes the creative collaborations and fun events as well as the boring such as SEO( search engine optimization),  taxes, expenses, legal guide lines, etc.

9. If you don’t try you’ll never know. I was hesitant to begin a blog, but I’m so glad I did. Oversaturation was a big worry of mine before I started, but I learned my niche and found a way to express it.

10. And finally I surround myself with boss babes and hustlers. Surrounding yourself  with people of similar goals is important. ( Hello blogosphere!)

So what are some of the lessons you’ve learned? Are they similar or completely different. Let me know in the comments and on social media.

T.S.

 

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16 Comments

  • Reply
    Alex Tabar
    February 8, 2017 at 4:16 pm

    Great Lessons. I feel identified with you so much. Happy Birthday! 🙂

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      tabithas6493
      February 8, 2017 at 5:19 pm

      Yes, its great to see other people have gone through or learned similar lessons in life isn’t? Thank You!!!

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    Fabiola Rodriguez
    February 8, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    I identify with points 1,2, 5, 6 and 9!
    Seriously, one of the best things I’ve learned in my life is how to say no. It’s very liberating, and it’s probably the most empowering thing a woman can learn to do.
    Happy birthday!!

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      tabithas6493
      February 8, 2017 at 5:21 pm

      Lol wow! Yes learning to say that magical two letter word has been liberating! Thank You.

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    Carmen
    February 8, 2017 at 9:28 pm

    Birthdays are my favorite! and they are definitely a great time to reflect. You did it very well!

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      tabithas6493
      February 26, 2017 at 6:06 pm

      Yes I felt it was a good time to do some reflecting… Thank You! And thanks for reading!

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    Barbara M
    February 8, 2017 at 11:58 pm

    Awww, so many lessons learned! But I identify with you as an introvert… if only I knew earlier in life that it is ok to be who I am! Great post 👍🏻

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      tabithas6493
      February 26, 2017 at 6:09 pm

      Yes being an introvert and being ok with it took me some time, mainly because society says you should be an extrovert to succeed and I don’t believe that at all anymore. It might take us a while and we do things in out own time but we are just as capable.Thank you for reading!

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    Danay Escanaverino
    February 9, 2017 at 11:37 am

    Happy & Healthy Birthday! I can tell you that #4, saying no, has been a hard won lesson for me. It is freeing to be able to just say no when you truly can’t deliver something. It’s also a great way to remove negative influences and the people who only take and suck the oxygen out of a relationship, be it business, friendship, etc. I love that you are reviewing and enjoying the wisdom you have earned.

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      tabithas6493
      February 26, 2017 at 6:11 pm

      Thank You! Yes learning to say no and not feel guilt about it is tough. But like you said it is sometimes the healthiest choice. Yes I wanted to do the review for myself and for readers, I also had a less personal post idea but. Decided to go with this one.

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    Marisa
    February 9, 2017 at 9:41 pm

    Love this, you are such a smart lady! I was hesitant too. Over the last 12 years I had alot to say and happen but didn’t know how to express it!. I moved 1200 miles away from home with my 12 yr old daughter in Aug 2015 and started my blog about the same time. Two of the best decisions I ever made. Wishing you much success and if you need any support, I’m here! So glad we connected!!!

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      tabithas6493
      February 26, 2017 at 6:15 pm

      Thank You!! Wow that was a brave choice to make, but you survived! And you put yourself out there at the same time! Being brave and just going for it like we both did has seemed to work out. Yes I’m glad we connected through the blogosphere as well, maybe one day we will meet at a blogging event! Thank you for reading!!

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    Veronica
    February 10, 2017 at 12:30 am

    Making it to a new year is so awesome and for me, a blessing to keep enjoying with the family. Hope you take advantage of all the opportunities that come your way.

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      tabithas6493
      February 26, 2017 at 6:17 pm

      Yes and being able to enjoy everything that comes my way and learn from the good and the bad is something I hope I continue to do.

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    Veronica
    February 10, 2017 at 1:44 am

    What a happy time to celebrate a new year full of opportunities. Hope you enjoy your new round around the sun

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      tabithas6493
      February 26, 2017 at 6:18 pm

      That is a great way of looking at it, a new year for opportunities! Thank you so much for reading!

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